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| Mark Nehrbas |
Crucial to the success of
our Men's Conference at St. Stephen’s Church in Caldwell off of Exit 25 on I-77
on Saturday March 23, 2019 from 9 am to 4 pm is the Parish Representative. The theme is “The Cross as a Source of Strength and Path
to Ultimate Victory Over All Adversity” with St. Joseph, model of a true man of God, as the Conference’s patron.
To complement the Mass presided by Bishop Monforton and the Penance
Service, the featured speaker is Mark Nehrbas, a speaker at many conferences. The
morning talk, “Victory of the Cross in My
Battle With Cancer”, will include his testimony of his six year battle
with an aggressive form of stomach cancer and his healing at Lourdes, France. In the
afternoon talk, “Victory Over Suffering: Lessons Learned From the Cross”. Mark Nehrbas will explore the mystery of
suffering, why God permits it, how he confronted it, how he grew from it, the lessons
he learned, how it can be very productive, how it can make you a saint, and
tips on how to cope when it’s your turn to suffer.
If we can mobilize an average of 10 men from every parish
in the diocese, this event would be a smashing success! This is a hard sell for many men, but the
Lord will help us.
This is evangelization at its best as we complete our God
given mission in little ways in fulfilling Christ's command to teach all
nations. The priests and religious
cannot do it alone; we must help them and do our part, especially considering
the scarcity of vocations.
Evangelization today is more important than ever before, considering the
crisis that Christianity is in all over the world.......drifting and fallen
away Catholics, broken families, laxity in practice, poor knowledge of the
faith, the international spiritual/cultural war with secularism, and the
multitude of evils that our society must confront. Our country desperately needs a revival. Why not start in your parish with the
Diocesan Men's Conference and be on the front line as the Lord's
instrument? Don't just keep the faith;
spread it.......in little or big ways by prayer and example, word and deed.
You might want to consider the promotion ideas below and
then adapt them to your own personality and parish culture. It and many other promotional resources as
well as articles on men’s spirituality are on our Men’s Conference Blog at http://diosteubmen.blogspot.com.
· Word of Mouth is the most effective form of advertising. This is especially true in parishes since
many go over the bulletin quickly with little thought or simply put it aside for
later and don't read it at all. You
could get others in the parish to help through an informal committee or simply
enlist the help of friends. You may want
to try to talk to every man in the parish one-on-one
with a little sales pitch and record their answer as: yes, no, or maybe. I'm getting mostly maybe's but that gives me
an appropriate excuse to ask them again.
Of course, be careful not to badger them, which I sometimes do without
realizing it. Ask the local K of C to
help & mobilize their men to attend.
After the initial conversation, give them a copy of the tri-fold
brochure to keep as a reminder. Ask the Men to bring their teenage sons,
thus making it a father and son day as well for stronger bonding.
· Inform the
men of the objectives and what they can gain from the Men's Day of Renewal. The
goal of the Men's Day of Renewal is to focus on the spiritual development of
the men of our diocese. Having spiritually strong men of faith and character
translates into more solid families, more dynamic parishes, and better
communities. These are crucial to the Church, now and in the future, not to
mention the critical need of nurturing vocations. Hopefully, the men will become closer to God,
learn more about their faith with a deeper understanding and thus become
stronger Catholics. Life will then
become happier and more meaningful with purpose. It will be a day of enjoyable fellowship and
spiritual invigoration.
· Challenge the Men without rubbing them the wrong way. The Lord's kingdom on earth direly needs a
few good spiritually strong men and too many of us are failing in our special
missions. Too many of us are
spiritual wimps and this conference attempts to attack that problem. We have to be the pillars of the parish, not
only the older women. We as fathers must
take the spiritual lead in our families, in that way insuring that our children
will be faithful in their adult years.
If only the mother takes the spiritual lead, the probability of
faithfulness in later life is about 40%.
If the father takes the spiritual lead, that probability increases to
about 80%. This conference will help to
prepare us to fill that role more effectively by becoming better husbands and
fathers. Hopefully, many men will leave
the conference on fire to renew their families and parishes. As a natural consequence they will be better
prepared to put Christ into their professions and renew society in a small way
one person at a time.
· Ask the pastor to announce the conference from the pulpit &
for weekly blurbs in the Church bulletin. These of course are important, but it's the
conventional way. We need creative
methods of promoting this important event.
· Ask the pastor to include in the Offertory Petitions……..that the
Conference will set the men on fire; that that it inspire the men to become
true men of God and the spiritual leaders in their families, to renew their parishes, and to put
Christ into their professions.
· Creatively use your
parish bulletin according to the wishes of your pastor with a short catchy
blurb every week during the six to eight weeks before the event. I have a collection of short blurbs that you
can use as is or as a starting point and adapt to your parish culture and
situation. If interested, please write me
at paulrsebastian@yahoo.com or call me at 740-245-9404 if you have any questions. I'll be happy to send these blurbs to you by
e-mail or snail mail.
· Make copies of our trifold brochure that describes the Men's Conference
and includes the registration form. Use
it as a bulletin insert and put it on the parish website. You can also put in a more detailed write-up
with the registration form on the back as a bulletin insert. Then the men can personally give you the
registration form without your having to
go after them. You can also adapt
it. One year Fr. Wayne Morris of Corpus
Christi, Belle Valley and St. Stephen's of Caldwell, for example, creatively
adapted the official diocesan trifold to the needs of his parish without losing
any essential information and thus made it into his own parish publication in
color.
· Register
the men personally and submit the forms and money to the diocese all at
once. In that way you have better
control and know who is going and who isn't.
That makes follow-up and organizing car pools much easier. Most men
won't want to bother with sending the form and check to the diocese and many
would put it off. Waiting to register at
the door makes steering committee planning more difficult. If they pay in advance, it will be much more
difficult to back out with last minute inertia.
· Help those who cannot afford the $25 registration. Ask the pastor, the local Knights of Columbus
council, parish women's group, or other donors to provide some funding for
unemployed men and college students who may have financial problems. Economic circumstance should not prevent
any man from attending.
· Use a bus or organize car pools, preferably vans to reduce fuel
costs. Even better if the distance is
great; that gives a pilgrimage atmosphere!
The great benefit of this is fellowship which is another
selling point, especially if the distance and travel time is great. Distance gives a pilgrimage flavor and
sacrifice is what Lent is all about. In
the Middle Ages, people used to walk great distances to holy sites. The men can have a great time while having a
spiritually invigorating spiritual experience.
The enthusiasm generated by the conference can be contagious. This can result in greater friendships and a
more cohesive parish community. The local chapter of the Knights of Columbus
could also benefit through one-on-one opportunities to recruit new
members. The fellowship among their
members at the conference could strengthen their councils.
· Ask for the pastor's help and bring him along. We'll need confessors. His example is a big help! It will be a great opportunity for him to
know his men better and become closer to them as cohesion of the parish family
grows.
· Ask the pastor to allow you or another person to talk about
the conference at the end of the weekend Masses. A peer, whom the men respect, especially if
he attended before, can be more effective than the pastor whom people hear
promoting something all the time. Then
inform them that the brochure with the registration form is in the back of the
church.
· Enlist the help of those who attended a previous Diocesan Men's
Conference. They can relate the
experience by word of mouth, to their local Knights of Columbus council, other
men's groups, or with the pastor's approval speak at the end of Sunday
Mass as to how much they got out of it,
how much they enjoyed it. Personal
testimony makes our promotion much more authentic. Donations to help underwrite
the conference are most appreciated.
· Utilize the Power of the Woman. Perhaps discretely ask the women of the
parish through their parish group to lovingly encourage (not nag) their men to
attend......husbands, sons, fathers, relatives, friends. What woman would not like to have her men be
true men of God who would transform their families, the parish, and ultimately
society?
·
Use the Social Media (Facebook, Twitter) and the old fashioned telephone, both voice and texting to contact the
men, one on one.
· Ask for prayers to God and to St. Joseph for his intercession for the
success of the men’s conference, arguably the best model in history of a
true man of God. We cannot succeed by
ourselves with our efforts alone.
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St. Joseph, model of a true man of God, pray for us and the
success of the Diocesan Men's Day of Renewal.
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